Chapter 26

 

Chapter 26 : 

Expectations : it hurts !

Sometimes we have so many expectations from others , but generally they never gets fulfilled and at the end of the day we feel disappointed , then why we still carry expectations for someone! , it’s like a shopkeeper is selling his goods and at the end he is having only loss !

Loss ! What kind of loss !?

He spend his whole day and contribute his time and energy into it but got nothing .

Wait wait , he got something

Want to guess !?

Yes , he got disappointment !!

A huge box of disappointment , and the biggest question is ;,he’s still doing the same job .

Then you must be thinking why the person is still doing this !?

But before that we need to answer that why even after getting disappointed we still keep the soft corner for expectation ! , despite of knowing that it will hurt us .

Isn’t it similar to the job where you are not getting money , only feeling disappointed !!

Well this is inbuilt in human behaviour and it can’t be removed completely , somehow we all expect something from someone at some point .🙂 and end up hurting ourselves.

So the questions arises how we can deal with this.

Okay , before this let’s go to the shopkeeper shop .

He is having loss , so what should he do . Don’t you think he should first analyse all the sale rate and should set the prize of products according to their needs ,

I mean analysing and improving the way of selling can do some profit to him !

Can we also do the same thing with our expectations !!

You must be thinking how !?

I mean we can also set the prize of our expectations like setting the priorities first .

Some people have lot of expectations with everyone , but after setting the priorities we can reduce the level of expectations with those who are not in the top of priority list .

Now the list of top prioritise is left only , so I want you to think If the person is important for us than before expecting something or before getting hurt , don’t you think we should understand them first , it will not hurt us . But still ,

“ khi na khi ummed hoti h “

Honestly nothing can be done about it .

People usually say “ to ummed kyoon rkhni kisi k “

But if you get attached to someone by default you started expecting things from them !!

But understating them can still be a better solution, atleast it will not hurt us , and after understanding someone we will not feel disappointed 😌.

Now let’s go to the shopkeeper to check whether he is having good sale or not .

Shopkeeper seems sad , when I asked him he told his shop is out of stalk and for this he should go to the city to buy new products but he don’t know the way towards city and he never went alone so he asked his neighbour for company , but his neighbour went alone without letting him know !!

So what should the shopkeeper do !?

Don’t you thing he is dependent on his neighbour !

Yes , now we got one more word to fight with “ expectations” .

Being dependent on someone will lead you to expect things from them and because you are dependent on them , it will also hurt if they don’t behave accordingly .

So can’t he go alone , well he can use google map and can easily reach his destination without being dependent on someone .he may not reach the right shop at first but slowly slowly he will learn to purchase the stalk for his shop .

Conclusion 🙂:

“ do your own things , no matter how attached you are with the person , don’t be dependent on them , because this will create expectations when you started being dependent on someone , just be in your own character “